20. August 2014
A Girl's Dress & Buddhism
Thank you all for your lovely comments and well-wishes regarding my daughters birth and my story about midwifery in Germany. It has been interesting to read about the different situation abroad. In Britain midwifes are automatically allocated whereas in Canada and the United States it seems even more difficult to find a midwife than in Germany. There are parts of the world where an obstetrician is the only choice for women in childbirth.
Danke für die lieben Glückwünsche und interessanten Kommentare zur Geburt unserer Tochter und der Hebammen-Situation in Deutschland!
It is also interesting listening to women who went both ways - having some of their children in hospital under a doctors care and some of their children under midwife care or even at home.
They all tell what a huge difference it makes. I really hope that we can make a difference with our choice - by 'demanding' a midwife. Hopefully, they will become more common everywhere and will get better pay and acknowledgment!
With the help of my wonderful midwife Delia I've made three important discoveries lately:
1. Some babies want to be left in peace once in a while. Crying doesn't automatically mean 'pick me up and carry me'. It might be worth trying to put baby down, stroke her back, talk softly and let her drift into sleep. It works with us!
2. Some babies love to sleep on their tummy - against all advice regarding SIDS. On their back they feel stranded and nervous, even swaddling doesn't help. But turn them over and they suddenly sleep like babies (haha!). Guess what? I have one of them! I let her sleep on her tummy only when I'm close by, otherwise I turn her over once she is fast asleep (after she entered her second sleep cycle).
3. Carrying babies in a wrap or sling makes everyone happy and relaxed - it helps baby to feel secure and soothes all new-born difficulties like tummy aches and 'to much space after being so snug inside mummy'. And their mothers have got their hands free for other children, for eating and cooking and for blogging :-) Plus you babies head is always right in front of you for kisses and sniffing the sweet baby scent! We love it!
Since we've discovered these three 'secrets' we get 12 hours of sleep at night interrupted by three quick half-awake breast feeds. And we hardly experience any crying throughout the days - if baby is awake she is happily watching life out of her little kangaroo bag :-)
WELL, NOW TO THE KNITTING AND READING, right?!
I've been knitting a baby dress in very girly colours :-) It's almost finished and I love the feel and drape of the super soft cotton yarn. I've used needles one size up from the recommended size. Since my knitting tends to be tight and I like a softer drape this turned out exactly like I wished.
With cooler weather and the first autumn storms around this side of the world, our little girl is wearing her aviator hat everyday now and it is a perfect fit! I'm really happy with this pattern as it covers forehead and ears beautifully without slipping off or over her eyes. I will knit up a couple more of them once winter hits us.
Derzeit stricke ich ein Babykleid aus toller Baumwolle in Mädchenfarben und zeige euch auch mal, wie toll die Teufelsmütze sitzt - sie ist nun jeden Tag im Einsatz!
I'm still reading Jack Kornfields book on Buddhism and it gives me loads to think and to ponder - although I'm a bit short of time to really do some practice I admit. But several of the suggested exercises are actually do-able even with a small baby since it is not only sitting meditation.
Knitting is pretty good mediation too, don't you think?
Sorry for talking so much today - now quickly over to Ginny for the weekly Yarn Along!